The importance of feeling important
I f asked “Who is important to you?” How many people would you list before you said yourself? Do you have to feel important to feel valued? Are you that person, who will remind people of your job title, duties, how busy you are, or suggest they contact your people? Making someone realize your importance should be based on your actions that will demonstrate your value to the other person. So this leads to the question, who is important to you? Your answer should be “myself.” You must be your most important person. There’s no give or take in that.
You must surround yourself with people who are passionate, people you can have deep conversations with and those you can learn something from. And if this means rethinking the people in your life because they don’t make you feel good, or make you feel empty, and never has anything positive to say, then it is what it is. You must do things that will challenge you, make you think, make you ask questions, and will help you embrace your purpose. Being important to yourself is required for various reasons.
Most people in both genders, middle aged, different races, are considered insecure either professionally or personally because some of these individuals have described their lives as a brick wall. Living a drained life without creativity, feeling stuck and uninspired. It is necessary for them to be important. However, forcing others to make you important is a demeaning tactic. In other words, always be “only” important to yourself! Always motivate yourself by building your confidence that leaves a lasting sense of accomplishment that you can share with others such as a learned language, mastered skill, a fitness goal, or overcome a setback to get to where they want to be.
Accomplishment takes a lot of perseverance. If you have fought through adversity to reach a goal or make a difference, then you have proven your importance. When you make subtle announcements about your own self-importance it is saying to the other person, since you are not an important person to me, stop talking to me! Is this a message in a professional setting involving community people that maybe relying on your important self to receive. Self-confidence should give you the coping methods to be an important person not feeling the need to be acknowledged by everyone that needs you. Self-confidence doesn’t mean you have to make others feel inferior to you.
Do you want to make people feel beneath you by reminding them of your title, or to call your people? If you think you are better than others and only make decisions that depend on what’s best for you then you are self-centered and prideful. Having obsessive pride will make it difficult to be considered important to others or form genuine relationships. People who are too prideful may not notice or realize that they really are not important. This is an insecurity that people don’t often acknowledge and could be the source of behavior to protect oneself from criticism from others or rejection.
It might seem counterintuitive, but when you practice humility it helps everyone to understand that even though you are doing well, you do not have to brag or remind anyone about Especially if you are an influencer practicing humility allows you to consciously be aware that you bring worth to this world but that there are many others in the world who also have a purpose. Paradoxically, by being less important you are actually being more important because you are showing empathy, sympathy, or just listening to other human cares. When you stop explaining how important you are and start showing how important you are, the people you have shown will make sure that your importance is public information. In the end you will be able to pat yourself on the back and feel energized by your self-importance in pursuing goals that mean something to others.
How important is it for you to be remembered by others as being important or that they were unimportant? You are important when you know who you really are, able to accept your weaknesses, know they don’t change your self-worth and are able to celebrate your strengths and use them to help others overcome their challenges. Also allowing your actions to align with your principles, for a continuous sense of purpose. Not being important in an arrogant way will allow others to know who you are and what you stand for. Your accomplishments and confidence to show up, stand up, and speak up. In other words, you’ll be able to let your most important self-shine through and be very important to others throughout history.
Sherry Holliman is a concerned citizen of Crittenden County and a former Marion City Councilwoman. She has some thoughts on a variety of topics that she would like to share with her community.
Sherry Holliman
Community Commentary Self-confidence should give you the coping methods to be an important person not feeling the need to be acknowledged by everyone that needs you. Self-confidence doesn’t mean you have to make others feel inferior to you.
