CAROL MARAK (cont.)

friend is amazing, she talks to everyone, everywhere. It never occurs to her that rejection is possible. And everyone responds to her. She was just camping at the North Rim, hanging out with 5 young men in the next tent. I am going to be more outgoing but it's easy!'

No, it isn't easy to connect with strangers. But it gets easier over time. I was able to change my approach.

Here's how I changed being an introvert to being more inclusive:

• Made eye contact with every person that crossed my path

• Said hello to each one and smiled, If they didn't respond, I was okay with it

• Asked, 'How's the day going for you?'

• When shopping, make eye contact with clerks and thank them for the help and say, 'I hope you have a good day.'

After a month, I felt amazed by how it worked.

It was a fulfilling experience and I felt more engaged. Years later, today, I have conversations with strangers at the bus stop, waiting in the checkout lines — no matter where I go (most times) I don't feel alone because I know, a conversation and connection is right there waiting to happen.

Carol Marak, aging advocate, and editor at Seniorcare. com. She's earned a Certificate in the Fundamentals of Gerontology from UC Davis, School of Gerontology.